How To Find Your Next Step
I kept waiting for some magical “aha moment” to tell me what to do next. Spoiler: it never came. No big sign. No perfect plan. Just me, trying to make decisions while juggling way too much and second-guessing everything.
Eventually, I stopped waiting for clarity to show up fully formed and started asking better questions. Not Pinterest-worthy journal prompts—just real, honest questions that helped me figure out what I actually wanted, what wasn’t working, and what I was willing to do about it.
If you’re in that stuck spot too, here are the questions that helped me move forward—one imperfect step at a time.
1. What do I actually want?
Not what’s expected. Not what’s “practical.” Not what looks good on paper.
This was hard. Because for a long time, I didn’t even know how to answer it. I was so used to keeping the peace, being responsible, and doing what made sense for everyone else, that I forgot I was allowed to want something more. Or different. Or better.
If that’s you too—you’re not crazy. And you’re definitely not alone.
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2. What am I just putting up with?
When you’re stuck, it's easy to think something huge needs to change. But a lot of the time, it’s a hundred tiny things we’ve convinced ourselves we just have to deal with.
The constant interruptions. The client who drains the life out of you. The way you’re last on your own priority list. This question helped me get honest about what I was no longer willing to tolerate—even if I couldn’t fix it all at once.
3. If I weren’t overthinking this, what would I do?
You could also phrase this as: If I didn’t care what people thought, what would I do next?
This one cut through a lot of noise. Because most of the time, I wasn’t actually confused—I was just scared. Or stalling. Or already knew the answer but didn’t want to deal with the fallout of doing the brave thing.
(Also: if you’re scared, that doesn’t mean it’s the wrong move.)
4. What’s already working?
It’s easy to focus on what’s broken. But sometimes the next step is about doubling down on what is working—even if it’s just one tiny thing.
One client you love. One system that saves you five minutes a day. One thing you did that felt easy (for once). That’s your clue. Build from there.
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5. What would I tell a friend in this exact situation?
Because honestly, you probably already know what you’d say. You’d give her permission. You’d tell her she’s not crazy. You’d tell her to stop wasting time and go for it already.
So—tell yourself the same thing. And then actually listen.
You don’t need to map out the whole future. You just need your next move.
That’s it. No five-year plan. No perfect timing. Just one real step in the right direction, backed by a little clarity and a lot of courage.
You’ve got this—even if you’re figuring it out as you go.
She built it anyway.
